{"id":5436,"date":"2018-10-28T16:46:04","date_gmt":"2018-10-28T21:46:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.harrynowell.com\/blog\/?p=5436"},"modified":"2022-05-29T08:14:32","modified_gmt":"2022-05-29T13:14:32","slug":"1150-the-hidden-power-of-band-aids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.harrynowell.com\/blog\/2018\/10\/28\/1150-the-hidden-power-of-band-aids\/","title":{"rendered":"#1150 The Hidden Power of Band-Aids"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201c17 yrs ago, I had little patience for a boy named Cedric. He was defiant and belligerent. He was what we called, \u201chard.\u201d One day in my office, I asked him what his challenges in life were. He said, \u201cI don\u2019t have anyone to take care of me.\u201d This is a moment I will never forget.\u201d<\/em> Danny Steele (@SteeleThoughts)<\/strong>\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

Cedric needed a band-aid.<\/p>\n

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True power of a band-aid<\/p><\/div>\n

Most teachers keep a pack of \u201cband aids\u201d close at hand. Little scrapes, scratches or boo-boos can send students in need of the healing power of a band-aid. The true healing goes beyond the scratch\u2026<\/p>\n

So often, I find students like Cedric need emotional support or caring. The application of a simple band-aid provides the initial caring and support sometimes missing in a student\u2019s life.<\/p>\n

I worked with a young student \u2013 \u201cPeter\u201d – who \u2018trashed\u2019 his class, twice, causing his main teacher to evacuate students.<\/p>\n

What triggered his rage? With some digging we found the boy had\u00a0a tough home life. His mom was gone. His life was unsettled and he craved attention, love and security \u2013 the lower layers of Maslow\u2019s hierarchy of needs<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Peter\u2019s homeroom teacher was worried he was falling behind academically. However, he could not progress academically without developing a stronger base layer from which to grow.<\/p>\n

Many people take a hard line with students like Peter (and Cedric.) “Conform, or else.”\u00a0<\/em>Their behaviour, however inappropriate, is often a cry for help. A hard line of consequences can add to the hidden challenges<\/a> and trauma<\/a> that lead to greater problems we sometimes see as tragic headlines in the news.<\/p>\n

What is often needed is a \u201cband-aid.\u201d Someone to listen, teach coping skills and build resilience so the student will start climbing towards success.<\/p>\n

With Peter, the school support team came together. We helped him develop the social skills and resilience he needed. When I first met him he clung to me physically \u2013 craving attention. As he developed new skills he started ignoring me. That\u2019s a good sign \u2013 it means he was finding the attention, love and security in a more appropriate way. As he develops Maslow\u2019s base layers he will be ready to learn traditional academics.<\/p>\n

Provide the band-aid. Find the behaviour triggers. Support.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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